American women reading this: You should seek out the kind of American man who dates foreign women because we would never in a million years catcall women on the street or grope them.
The reason is clear: we know we have a chance because we have either been successful overseas or at home and most often both. The losers who catcall or grope are the kind of guy who clearly figures he does not have a chance with any woman and thus hates them...just like the 40-something radical feminist women who hate men who don't want them and are thus trying to use laws like IMBRA to stop American men from dating foreign women.
The Hollaback blog seems to feature only really nasty American men trying to talk to American women.
Daniel Craig, before Casino Royale, was a skinny 5'10 actor whom women in American would not have paid any attention to. He buffed up for the film and now he has major recognition points.
I have found that it helps to be mistaken for a film star, which Europeans and Russians tend to do with me. The problem is, Americans never mistook me for a film star except for a few years when I looked like Freddy Kruger...which did not help much in getting a date.
Anyway, although the blog mentions some really inexcusable behavior on the part of some trashed American guys trying to meet American women (where is the background check on these guys instead of the one IMBRA imposes on the polite upper middle class men who meet foreign women - who would never make catcalls), Sluggo makes an excellent point that the social scene in the US can get really ugly if women start photo blogging with "this person is, IMHO, a jerk. I think I will take a picture of him and post it on the Internet". It will help enforce political correctness. To politically correct people, a politically incorrect white male is a jerk, no matter how funny and intelligent and good looking he is. He only needs to mention the word feminist in the pejorative to achieve jerk status for instance.
Correction: I just noticed that this is already happening! Apparently there are a lot of American women blogging like this.
That being said, I did not see a case on Hollaback where the man was anywhere near innocent.I find catcalling women or feeling them up in public to be inexcusable and it can get you dead very fast in Russia or other countries, so message to abusive men: do not even think of finding a wife overseas. If a foreign woman has brothers or a cop for a father, you may not live to get married.
Reading the newspaper accounts, apparently most of the places where the men are catcalling women are ethic neighborhoods like Jamaica Bay in Boston and Oakland, California.
In other words, this is another example of an ethnic problem being made to seem like American men in general tend to catcall and grope women on the street.
Here is a quote from the San Francisco Chronicle:
The law is on the woman's side, at least in the office, said San Francisco attorney Philip Kay, who specializes in sexual harassment and employment law.
"What's considered an offensive comment in the workplace is defined by the person on the receiving end, not the person who said it," he said. "There are no similar laws about the streets outdoors, but that's an interesting new area."
It would take a greedy lawyer to make that last line. Like I said, the USA's 4th branch of government is the Bar Association.
This is from the Boston Globe
Asked about the possibility that some of the photos and stories that make it online might level unjust accusations, she says, ``We are more concerned about the thousands of women that get harassed every day."
Legally, accosting or annoying someone of the opposite sex could get the offender up to six months of jail time or $200 in fines, according to Chapter 272, section 53 of Massachusetts General Law.
Notice the "we are more concerned about innocent women" than about innocent men.
With the exception of the foreign exchange students, my experience as a gentleman who just wanted to say hello to some women on the streets of Boston was that the American-born women of Boston are the rudest on the planet. It is no surprise that they got a law passed saying men cannot talk to them. I think it all started with the Boston Strangler in the 1960s. The society never recovered from the paranoia. But Boston is a great place to meet foreign exchange students.
Why isn't there an article about extraordinarily rude Boston women who won't let any gentleman talk to them in public?
I am talking about women who have taken a Womyns Studies course in college because, when I lived in Boston the one American woman who asked me out on a date after meeting me in public was an 18 year old who had not yet been indoctrinated in college.
Of all the places I have even been in this world, Boston is the most anti-male environment I ever witnessed (except for the foreign exchange students and 18 year olds who haven't yet taken their first "Womyns Studies Course" in college). For every case of bad guys actually harrassing a Boston woman (most of the cases occuring in poor ethnic neighborhoods) there are probably 100 cases of nice guys simply wanting to say hello and chat with someone, which the men might be used to being successful at doing in other parts of the country and the world.
Stephanie Conduff can be reached at sconduff at globe.com. Here is some more of what she wrote:
Women can seek legal protection in work and academic environments, but harassment on the street or public transportation is a new frontier, says Nan Stein , a senior research scientist at the Wellesley Centers for Women at Wellesley College. She says she developed the first curriculum on sexual harassment in schools in 1979 for the Massachusetts Department of Education.
Click the play button below to hear Maanav Thakore, a community organizer in Jamaica Plain, talk about street harassment in Boston.
``I think if it is public transportation . . . then there is a responsibility of both federal and city governments to make you safe," the Cambridge resident says. In Stein's opinion, just saying ``hey baby" -- on the T or on the street -- shouldn't be against the law.
``I don't want speech like that criminalized," she says. ``You are going to run into the First Amendment," which is part of a constant tension in harassment cases .
That lack of clearly defined and established legal guidelines to make the streets safe from harassment is part of what prompts groups ardent about the issue to turn to like-minded souls for help.
When a number of Boston-area women met in Cambridge last month to discuss their personal struggle with lewd shouts and other assaults on their dignity, five members of the National Organization for Men Against Sexism, Boston chapter, were there.
The pro feminist, gay-affirmative, and anti racist group joined the women, forming a circle at the Democracy Center on Mt. Auburn Street to trade ideas and stories and engage in role-playing.
They took their dialogue out to a corner of Harvard Square. There they used construction cones to wrap the sort of yellow tape all too familiar from crime scenes -- but covered with handwritten slogans. ``Don't ask me to smile," said one. ``Street harassment must end," proclaimed another, and then: ``Warning: street harassment will not be tolerated -- violators will be photographed."
The square is symbolic of public places where harassment frequently occurs, says Matt Meyer , a member of the men's group. A display like theirs is one way to bring awareness to the problem, he says.
Scott Pherson , a cofounder of the group, says he left the event with a sense of satisfaction that more people are sharing in his outrage about harassment. He says he has confronted men on T platforms and asked them to stop harassing women.
``I get annoyed and I get upset," he says, ``when I see it happening."
Any red-blooded heterosexual alpha-male would stop another man from harrassing a woman in public, but this journalist wants to make it seem that only gay American males would do that. The journalist calls this men's group "gay friendly", which means "consisting of gay men" in newspeak.
Here is an interesting website:http://www.harassment101.com/